I greatly respect the work of Yung Pueblo. His book Inward became a transformative piece of my healing journey. You can find his musings on Instagram @YungPueblo and his insights are worthy of a follow. This popped up recently and reminded me of the shifts that took place when I transitioned into motherhood. Read on to catch a glimpse of the questions I used to evaluate my personal relationships then and even now.
When I became a momma I started to truly evaluate the relationships in my life. Was the energy exchange in the relationship equal? Were these people genuinely showing up with love or out of convenience/obligation? Were these people trustworthy with my heart and soul secrets? Were these people talking about me when I left the table? Based on the answers, I recalibrated. In some cases I took a step back, and in others I let go. There was no more time in my life for superficial connection. I discovered a new level of living and my energy needed to be redirected into the ones that mattered most, including myself. Becoming a mom put everything into perspective. Today, I live with clarity about the relationships I cultivate. I no longer need to be accepted by anyone or to fit in because I wasn’t made to play a role. I was made to be me, all of me, unapologetically. Those who are genuine will show their heart and support in the most authentic of ways. If you’re paying attention, you’ll know. Anyone else — do yourself a favor and pay it no mind. Move on and make space for what you deserve. A little love note from your friend, Nik ♥️