3 Signs of a Good Friend

I greatly respect the work of Yung Pueblo. His book Inward became a transformative piece of my healing journey. You can find his musings on Instagram @YungPueblo and his insights are worthy of a follow. This popped up recently and reminded me of the shifts that took place when I transitioned into motherhood. Read on to catch a glimpse of the questions I used to evaluate my personal relationships then and even now.

When I became a momma I started to truly evaluate the relationships in my life. ⁣ ⁣ Was the energy exchange in the relationship equal? ⁣ ⁣ Were these people genuinely showing up with love or out of convenience/obligation?⁣ ⁣ Were these people trustworthy with my heart and soul secrets?⁣ ⁣ Were these people talking about me when I left the table?⁣ ⁣ Based on the answers, I recalibrated. In some cases I took a step back, and in others I let go.⁣ ⁣ There was no more time in my life for superficial connection. I discovered a new level of living and my energy needed to be redirected into the ones that mattered most, including myself.⁣ ⁣ Becoming a mom put everything into perspective. ⁣ ⁣ Today, I live with clarity about the relationships I cultivate. I no longer need to be accepted by anyone or to fit in because I wasn’t made to play a role. I was made to be me, all of me, unapologetically. ⁣ ⁣ Those who are genuine will show their heart and support in the most authentic of ways. If you’re paying attention, you’ll know.⁣ ⁣ Anyone else — do yourself a favor and pay it no mind. Move on and make space for what you deserve.⁣ ⁣ A little love note from your friend, Nik ♥️⁣